When do we become mamas? I’m realizing that it happened long ago. Not when I gave birth, not when I conceived, not even when I started thinking about having a child.
I became a mama years into my past, in childhood really. All my beliefs and values surrounding being a mother come from my own upbringing. You’re probably noticing that you too, whether you have children or not, are already a mama.
As we grow up, we store away little events and emotions we experience, whether they are good or bad, and make conscious decisions on if we want to experience these again in future occurrences. These may be emotional, physical, and spiritual experiences.
Let’s talk about some examples. You may have grown up in a household where there was constant bickering. In your youth you made a conscious decision that this was something you never wanted to happen in your home when you had a child. You may also have had a family that was always very affectionate and had no problems showing love through hugs and kisses. If this is something you enjoyed it’s a decision where you decided this is absolutely how you want to raise your child.
This can also be related to habits you want to raise your child with. Maybe you grew up drinking a can of soda everyday, but you’ve now realized that it’s not a very healthy habit and its something you definitely don’t want to have your child grow up doing. Did your parents have alcohol in the home and drink in front of you? Whether you had a bad, good, or neutral experience, your decision on what you wanted for your life, was subconsciously made years ago.
I invite you to take a moment and think about how long you’ve been a mama. If you’re really nervous about having a baby, don’t fear, you’ve already been one for most your life. Now you just have to put it to work. It’s hard work, but totally rewarding!