Whether you’re super mom or just barely keeping it together once you realize how much time and energy goes into taking care of one child, it really can cause huge havoc in your brain when you begin to imagine doing double duty.
Now, while I’m really really good at the prepping for pregnancy part of a women’s experience, I have no problem admitting that I am just like every other mom that’s slightly freaking out about the job they’re doing trying to raise healthy, respectful, and well-rounded children. There is no super mom living under my roof!
As we started preparing for Baby #2, many thoughts came to our mind. For many the financial aspect is one of them. I think that fear will pretty much always be there for most people. I heard someone tell me the other day that more people are less afraid of death than they are about running out of money!
Leaving that big topic aside, what other fears may arise when you start thinking about #2?
Some big ones that came up for me/us were mostly along time issues. How are we going to find the time to manage 2 children’s schedules plus our own? What if our current job timings change and my hubby is no longer available for pick ups in the evenings? What on earth was I actually going to do with Baby #2 once he or she arrived?
With Karina I was blessed to be able to spend the first year of her life with her. No daycare, baby sitting, nothing! With the new baby, not only do I have a practice, but I’ve also restarted an entirely new practice that requires my time and energy to teach women the importance of preconception health… something that doesn’t normally get much marketing efforts, so I really feel like I’m starting from scratch with that!
And will my Baby #2 get the same care and attention I was able to give Karina? How will their life experience be because of where we are in life right now?
There are so many other questions and fears that can arise when talking about extending a family past the first child. Worries about how stretched thin you might become.
Want to know how I got past those fears?
I took a deep breath and remembered that there are so many other families out there that may have less money, less time, less support than I do, and somehow they manged to make it work and I can too.
When we stop thinking about all the things we may need or want for our children and get back to the basics of being good role models and helping them build strong conscious curious minds we can let go of the fear of how they’ll turn out and how we’re going to manage.
Do you know someone who is worried about having a second child? Do they need someone to talk to?