While it’s something that I personally wasn’t aware of, many mommies were aware that sometimes it takes much longer and is harder to conceive Baby #2. I’ve learned this to be called secondary infertility and that it actually affects more than 3 million women in the US.
While there are many “expert” reasons for this secondary infertility, I obviously have my own educated opinion!
Let’s take a look back to the last pregnancy:
- Did you have an easy time conceiving?
- How did you experience it- everything you hoped for or did you just get by?
- Did you have a long, hard, or complicated labor?
- What was recovery like?
- How was your experience with nursing?
- Did you ever get any support to get your body back to where it was before you conceived? (Physically & Emotionally)
If we take a step back and look at my discussion on Infertility, why would this case be any different? It almost seems natural! If your body wasn’t ready to be pregnant the first time around and you barely made it through the process, and on top of that you added more emotional and physical stressors from actual labor and delivery, and even further were able to take less better care of yourself because you’re now super focused on your child… The body has been through so much trauma, even if unintended, that it’s going to have an even harder time getting pregnant the second time around!
If you’re able to take a step back and look at how to prepare your body each time to make sure that your neurologically ready and that you’ve supported your body to be in its healthiest state, then making babies is something we as women were designed to do. There should be no fear around not being able to create the baby or having a challenging pregnancy.
Do you know someone who has been having trouble conceiving a second or third child? What was their experience like? Is this information that could help a friend or family member?